I have a “rocking” little kindergarten class this year. My students are rough, busy, and loud. They haven’t come with much patience, don’t possess much stamina for school, and are struggling to make green choices. I’ve definitely seen a lot of growth since the beginning of the year, but some days . . . oh my, some days!
There are days I feel as though all I’ve done is manage behaviour. I’ve pulled out all my teacher tricks, I’ve read for new ideas, and I’ve picked the brains of my colleagues. And still, there are days that I feel defeated by a group of five year olds!
But then the best thing happens . . . I pop into the room across the hall, or make a longer walk down the hall to the middle year’s end. I visit with one of my colleagues, and we share stories of our wild day, sometimes over chocolate. All the stuff that made the day seem disastrous melts away in the heat of laughter. The shared stories help create a problem solving atmosphere, and often a plan for moving forward germinates from the interaction. I am so grateful for the supportive relationships I have, for the people around me who gently push me to do better.
By the time I get home, I am able to tell the funny stories of the day, and laugh. My teenagers giggle at the number of times I’m asked for a kiss, that my butt is slapped or fondled as a question asking method, or that a child pulls down his pants. They think kindergarten is definitely more x-rated than high school!
Adding the therapy from my family to the therapy already received from colleagues, allows me to confidently and happily face a fresh day each morning . . . which is exactly what the little people I work with deserve.
I’m going back to a prompt from a couple of weeks ago . . .
Would I want to be a student in my own classroom?
I’m doubtful this is the right question to ask. Of course I’d want to be a student in my own classroom . . . I plan learning activities and have discussions around topics that I’m interested in and passionate about. I’m totally engaged and learning, and so are all the students who are similar in learning styles and interests to me.
My yardstick for my classroom is usually my son, and whether he’d want to be in my classroom. He’s 15, and school has never been his favourite place. He’s also not one of those kids who will sit quietly and endure something he’s not enjoying, which means that there’s also been quite a bit of conflict in his school life. And when we talk about it and he tells me why he feels frustrated and unfulfilled at school, I know he has a point. The one-size-fits-all, sit-down-and-shut-up, do-what-I-tell-you model that so many classrooms follow doesn’t work for kids like him, if it works for anyone at all.
My son would thrive in a classroom where he had some choice – a choice of where he sits, what he learns, the way in which he completes assignments, the order in which he completes activities. He’d also be successful with a teacher who he feels cares about him. Because he’s so often “that kid”, there haven’t been many teachers in his life who have made the effort to get to know him – his interests or his fears. Those who have developed a relationship with him have seen him blossom.
And that’s my question, always – “Would he want to be here?” If I can reply that I’m working on relationships with my students, that I’m giving them choice, that I’m helping them follow their passions, I think I’m doing okay. And from okay, I can work towards great.
There are few things as enlightening, and humbling, for a teacher than having your own child struggle in the school system. My son has been a great catalyst for me to become more innovative so I can better meet the needs of students like him. I am so thankful to him for making me a better teacher.
I find it interesting that the whole “relationships are the most important thing in education” line of thinking plays itself out when I think about my ideal school. The first thing that jumps into my mind isn’t the actual structure, the resources, or the curriculum. Rather, it’s the people I would fill it with.
I’ve been fortunate to teach in many different schools in my career (across three provinces). I am confident in saying that kids and parents are basically the same everywhere. There is never enough money for resources to do the things you’d really like to do in education, no matter the government involved. There is always assessment and curriculum to be questioned for the value it provides to students. But everywhere, there are great people who are making everything work, no matter what the odds, and inspiring the rest of us as they do it.
My ideal school could be a broken down barn with few resources, but the people I’d populate it with would make it exceptional. They would make it exceptional because of their passion, their knowledge, their ability to collaborate, their talent at making learning opportunities, sometimes seemingly out of nothing, and their intense desire to make school interesting, safe, and relevant for students. These people have inspired me in my career because of their curiosity and commitment to their own continued growth and learning, their beliefs in hands-on and experiential learning, and their acknowledgement that most times, we have to go where students lead us.
My ideal school would have many other aspects to it. There would be lots of messy learning. Process would be more important than products, and our assessments would reflect that. Coming from the angle of someone who teaches in both kindergarten and middle years, exploration and inquiry would be key at all ages. Technology would be employed to connect to others, and share our work. But the key would always be the passionate people filling the building.
My ideal school would be all about the people in it. Everything else would be gravy.
I originally started this post during my the writing warm-up time in my grade 7/8 class, on March 2. I gave them the same prompt as I started with, to choose to do if they wanted (“What would your ideal school look like?”). The ideas were fabulous! They were so thoughtful, and it was surprising how many of their ideas aligned with mine. I might have to share some of them here sometime.